Tuesday, August 11, 2015




I am a self-proclaimed procrastinator. And I'm sure I'm not the only one in this day and age. Everyone has this "sickness" of putting off their work until the deadline is already staring you right in the face. It's been my habit since high school, and I was able to convince myself that it was okay since it worked for me. I got good grades and I finished the work, so why should I worry? But then once I started working, I suddenly realized that its a bad habit that I really need to break. And after some research and thinking, I've come to realize why I should break the habit, and how to do it. And I'd like to share it with you guys.

                                        


How to Shake Off Procrastination

Everyone is a chronic procrastinator in their own way. Some are mild procrastinators that somehow overcome this behavior, while others are just plain vulnerable to it that it affects their progress in everything that they do. Even so, let’s face it. No one is safe from the urge to put things off. From small tasks like taking out the trash, doing the dishes at home to bigger ones like creating presentations for work or doing a project for school. Luckily, there are ways to overcome the impulse of procrastinating. There are easy ways to actually help stop procrastination.

First, get organized. This might sound simple and most people are already organized enough to some extent with how they manage their work or tasks, but it’s more than just organizing tasks. It’s also organizing yourself and how you actually do the work. Make a to-do list for yourself. Again, it sounds easy enough. But making the right to-do list and accomplishing the tasks on it is the challenge. Make sure that the tasks you write on your to-do list are tasks that you intend to finish. Avoid actually listing every single task that you have to do and create a long list for yourself. You just end up overwhelming yourself with the number of tasks on the list. Begin with the immediate tasks that need to be done first, and list at least five. That way, when you look at your list, you won’t be dazed with the number of tasks. Lesser tasks on your to-do list mean more motivation for you to get the job done. Then once you’re finished with your list, you can begin making a new one containing the remaining tasks that you still have. Also, try starting on the tougher tasks first. That way, you’ll be done with the hard work early and all that’s left to do are the easy ones. One more thing that you could do along with creating a to-do list is to accomplish it within a specific time frame. Giving each task a time frame may actually help you get the job done. For example, you list five tasks and then you give them a time frame of fifteen minutes each. Knowing the time frame that you’ve set will push you to forget procrastinating and work on it immediately. A lot of people will postpone doing their tasks thinking that they will always have enough time later to do the work but then ending up losing time and rushing their work. Remember, later is not always better.
                                              



Second, motivate yourself. Sometimes what people need to work is a little motivation and there are tons of ways to do it. You can give yourself a break. Every once in a while, you deserve to just sit back and rest. Relax for a while and just forget about doing your work, so long as you still have time to do it. Read a book, watch some TV or just enjoy a hot cup of tea. This will help you regenerate and motivate you to work harder on your task. There’s nothing wrong with taking a break from working once in a while, so long as you keep it short enough to get you back the energy you need and not long enough that you run out sufficient time to actually finish your work.


When you actually think about it, procrastination is just a way for people to stall their work and putting it off for another time, thereby making their tasks harder to accomplish and diminishing the quality of their outputs. Which is why in getting better with your goals, it is important to steer clear of procrastination. Try to organize and motivate yourself so that you will be able to maximize your time and be able to produce quality work that you will be happy with. Shake off procrastination and embrace a better working habit.

                                                  

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

An Open Letter to Friends Who Chose to Leave Me Behind

I thought we were BFFs. Best friends forever. Best friends who will always be there for one another, who will always support each other, who understands each other, who knows each other well enough to understand the actions that we do. But I guess I was wrong. I guess I was fooled into thinking that our 4 years of friendship actually means a lot to you guys. That nothing will ever be able to destroy it. Unfortunately, I now have to deal with the fact that you guys just easily threw it away like it meant nothing. And honestly, it hurts like hell.

We all knew that once we graduated from college, things will be a whole lot different. We’d be going down different paths, doing different things and living different lives. And true enough that happened. But we tried our best to still meet up, hang out and catch up with each other as much as possible. This went on greatly for a few months. But then I got busier at work. I missed our dates, I wasn’t able to hang out, and I suddenly became the busy adult. Naturally, I expected you guys to understand that. It wasn’t my fault. It was just the way it is with my work. It’s my priority. So imagine my shock when you guys just suddenly stopped inviting me to hang out. Suddenly, I wasn’t as important to be part of the group as I once was. Suddenly, I was the outsider. I really didn’t know why. But then I realized, it’s because I can’t do the things you guys are doing. Both of you have gone down the same path, and I chose a different one. Both of you chose a life of partying, drinking, and hanging out; while I chose a life of priorities and responsibilities.

Being left behind, I sort of felt like the reason why you guys just dumped me, was because I wasn’t doing what you guys were doing. I was left out because I choose to do different things. And that hurt more than anything. I expected that you would understand. I expected you guys to be there. But no, you weren’t. Not anymore.

But I forgive you. And I also forgive myself. 
I forgive you for what you've done... Even though I know it was not intentional and it wasn't what you really wanted. I forgive you for allowing it to happen, for not doing anything about it.. Not doing anything to fix it. I forgive you.
I also forgive myself for allowing me to react in ways that were not the best idea. I forgive myself for allowing me to carry on with the pain and not deal with it. But most of all, I forgive myself for staying quiet.

I've moved on now. And now I can say that I can still face you personally and not feel any hate or remorse. All I will ever feel now is regret and sadness. Because as much as it hurt, as much as I want to just forget. I can't. Because I will always miss you both...